By: William Henry

Can you handle the truth?

The more we base our life on truth, the better will be our way and the greater will be our life.

A quote from Real Man by Dr. Ed Cole.


When we look at ourselves, we need to be honest. Surely you have heard the adage “ the truth shall set you free!” What if I told you this is the biblical truth? The truth WILL set you free? The scripture comes from John 8:32. Jesus said this-


Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 8:32


How can this be? What freedom comes from truth? If any of you have ever told a lie, you know how lies can dig a bigger hole and create more fear of condemnation as time passes. We don’t ever just get to stop at the lie, we have to tell more to back it up. We continue to add and then we get to the point that we can’t keep the lie going because we can no longer remember the entire lie because lies are not based on anything. There is no real point of reference for a lie. And most of us can attest that the truth comes out in the end.

Why is this important? Because unless you are willing to commit assert you could be better than you are right now and mean it, you are a liar. None of us are perfect. We can all be better men. We can all be better husbands, fathers and leaders. We can all be more faithful, more mature, more responsible, more loving, more honest and most importantly, more obedient to God. We all lack the perfection necessary to say we can no longer be better. The only man to walk the earth in this absolute perfection is Jesus Christ.

It’s time for you to look in the mirror and realize, you are a work in progress. God is doing His work in you to make you the man He needs you to be. He wants to help you be better at being yourself. He wants better husbands and fathers. He desires faithfulness and commitment to obedience. He desires to lead you through your struggles and help you gain wisdom from them to help you later but more importantly, to use you to help someone else.

We all need to step it up. We need to look in the mirror, admit we are not perfect and repent. We need to tell ourselves we need help and ask God for it. We need to be honest with each other and hold each other accountable. We need to look at our wives and know that they are gifts from God and they deserve our best. We need to look at our children and understand that God has allowed us to be stewards over them and they deserve the best we can offer. God has entrusted you with your wife and your children. He expects you to guide, guard, and govern. He expects you to nurture and discipline your children. He commands us to love our wives and children. Love is a choice and must be an action. Love is the desire to benefit others at the expense of self.

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and honestly tell yourself you are giving your wife and your children your best? Are you truly giving them time, talent and treasure? It is from the abundance of a man’s heart that he speaks, are you speaking truth, love and life into your marriage? Are you resentful, bitter and discouraging to your wife? Are you tough on your kids without being tender? Are you loving them through their failures and lifting them up with encouragement to be the men and women God needs? Are you discipling your sons through God’s Word? Are you praying with your wife and children daily? Are you hugging your children and holding your wife’s hand proudly and with the love of Christ?

You need to take a long hard look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are man enough for your family. Are you man enough to admit you are wrong and repent? The hardest thing for a man to do is admit he is wrong. It’s time for you to step up and realize that true manhood can only be found through Jesus Christ.

I challenge you to ask yourself these questions. I challenge you to admit you need help. I challenge you to kneel before Christ and repent. I challenge you to reach out and ask for help.

If these are struggles you are facing, if you have a desire to be a better husband, father or just a better man for Jesus, we can help. We would love to guide you and walk with you on your path to a closer relationship with Christ and your family. We would love to partner with you and help you achieve your goals. We offer one-on-one discipleship and counseling to help you. We also offer Man Church services and Majoring in Men classroom styled discipleship. Join us through our membership portal and let us know how we can help. We can point you in the direction to a class near you or we can add you to a video conference class if that’s more convenient. We look forward to helping you on your journey and guiding you along the way!